What Love Looks Like
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her. Ephesians 5:22,25
Happy and successful marriages come down to doing this verse very well. Anytime two people look after and serve one another, there is a bond that can’t be broken. I like to think about the bond between soldiers that have served together. They work as a team and serve one another in any way possible. They are willing to lay down their lives and make sacrifices for the greater good.
Marriage should be the same – each individual serving and looking after the best interest of each other. Wives are to submit, which means to get under the mission of their husbands. Women were created to be the helper. Learn how you can be a blessing to your husband and serve him not out of obligation but out of love.
Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her. Husbands should be willing to lay down their lives literally and figuratively for their wives. Take care of her and bless her daily, laying down your desires to help meet hers.
This looks like preferring one another or seeing a need and filling that need. If you know your husband desires a clean house, do your best to keep it clean. If your wife is exhausted from taking care of the kids, give her a day out with her friends while you take care of everything else. If there is something you do that your spouse finds extremely annoying, try your best to stop doing it! Anytime we dig in our heels and refuse to bend toward the other person (in any relationship), resentment builds a divide that is hard to repair.
If you are in a marriage relationship, make it a game to “out bless” each other. That means finding ways to prefer them or do things you know will help them or make them feel good. That is sowing good seeds that will result in a happy and blessed marriage!
Dear Lord, Show me ways that I can bless and be a help to my spouse. Show me how to love them the way they need to be loved. Thank you for a blessed marriage. Amen.